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I appreciate the concepts and grounded messages related to the personal experiences of the Hendrix/ Hunt couple experience. Imago relationship theory helps people to understand the complicated ways that influence partner section and the interactions between people who love each other and why it feels so good and so bad to be in relationship. This book expands the book "Getting the love You Want" and helps to explore the new ideas related to self sabotage and encouragement for developing behaviors that help people to accomplish interpersonal goals.
Josephine Thomson, MCC This book is a great resource for yourself and the people you truly care about who have a tremendous ability to GIVE love, but find it difficult to actually enable themselves to truly RECEIVE it. It's a very practical, insightful and significant piece of the whole circle of love puzzle.
-The book's premise is that many people are blind to the fact that they create barriers towards receiving love. Similarly, in my last relationship I did everything possible to reach out to my girlfriend and open myself up emotionally to her, but the more I reached out, the more she shut down; I see now that she was simply refusing to accept love and had a block towards emotional intimacy, empathy and compassion because she carries so much unresolved baggage.-This book explains in great detail the reasons for this self-sabotaging behavior, most often directly tied to childhood abuse and neglect. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has a childhood that was unstable, neglectful or abusive or who is in a relationship with a person with an unstable childhood. I had never thought of this before but can apply it directly to my own life: I never thought that I deserved to be happy or to be loved. It provides many case studies on relationships showing how subtle, insidious and destructive the behavior pattern of refusing to receive love is.-Most importantly, the book gives a very thoughtful, positive and counter-intuitive strategy to allow oneself to begin receiving love.-I am so sad for what has been lost in my life, but this book provides hope for the future. This book provides concrete strategies for overcoming the unconscious sabotaging that frequently results from such backgrounds.--I finished this book feeling a great sense of sadness because it explained so clearly why my last relationship - with the love of my life - failed. The hope of the book is that it gives communication techniques for creating emotional intimacy in a relationship.
I think this is essential reading for reflection for ALL couples whether they have been married one day or eighty years
Very helpful. And, wonderful exercises are included at the end to enable readers to practice application of what they've just read. The book was received in a timely manner and the condition was as promised.Have just finished reading "Getting the Love you Want" by the same author. He has the best way of presenting & teaching that I've ever experienced with a writer on this subject matter.
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